Oh the dating wars, should women wear makeup, have cosmetic surgery, should men wear lifts in their shoes or a rug?
Or should women and men just let it all hang out and see where that takes them. Or should we all give the best gloss we can to our body beautiful?
There is of course no real answer because what each person reacts to and is attracted to in another person varies so much it’s hard to set any rules about how any of us whould behave out on the dating scene.
But there have been a number of studies that have found that men say they like women best without makeup.
And another set of studies that give the lie to that. On dating sites it has been found that men respond in far higher numbers to women wearing eye makeup and lipstick than to women without makeup on. And apparently the makeup that men like the least on women is blusher, so ladies if you take this evidence seriously put the blusher on with a gentle hand.
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Women however tend to be puzzled by men who wear lifts or wear rugs. It’s a ‘why do you bother’ issue for women; they either like the guy or not and the lifts or the rug are unnecessary.
It’s probably best not think about what’s wrong with your body, there is after all something wrong with everybodys fleshy bits so that thought is bound to bring us down. A more useful thought is ‘I’m the only one I have to impress’.
When we impress ourselves or please ourselves it’s so much more fun. There’s probably not a single New York woman who doesn’t have a favorite outfit, pair of jeans, coat or jacket. You know the one you throw on and you always feel fabulous in. There’s a reason for that, wear it often, it’s solid fun.
And men also have their ‘comfortable’ clothes as opposed to their office or special occasion wear. And they cling to those comfortable clothes. The principle in personal presentation is do you enjoy what you’re wearing, are you ahving fun. If yes, anything goes.
Modern day clothing trends allow us to try a very wide choice about what is suitable makeup or garb under any circumstances.
What it comes down to is if a guy or a gal is only going to like us if we look a certain way, have on eye shadow or wear 3 inch heels, is that the kind of relationship you want to be in? If a woman is only going to like you if you are a certain height or look her version of ‘handsome’ do you want a relationship with her? Of course not. Use people’s reaction to how you choose to present yourself as a good sorting mechanism. it helps you get rid of the time wasters.
So please yourself, feel really comfortable in yourself and let the dice roll. The good ones always pay attention to those positive vibes.