Being single in NYC is the stuff of novels, films and social media content dripping with hope, pain, fury and resignation but rarely optimism. The general story is “It’s hard, man, it’s hard” and in truth it is, but not quite in the way everyone imagines.
Let’s look first at the stats. Almost exactly half of the NYC population is single, reflecting a rising tide of singledom across the nation, though NYC is kind of in the forefront of that. And, this is surprising and challenging truth, in the age bracket 20-34 when the mating urge is at its highest men outnumber women in NYC. However there is something else about all these NYC singles which can make a New Yorker after a partner decide there just isn’t enough of the opposite sex around.
And they make that judgement because, while men outnumber women overall where people live determines how many people of the opposite sex are around to date. So in the Upper East Side, East Midtown, Greenwich Village, Financial District (Manhattan), East New York and Brownsville (Brooklyn) women really outnumber men by quite a bit. Conversely in South Shore and Great Kills (Staten island), Sunset Park, Boro Park, Bayridge, Shepherds Bay and Coney Island (Brooklyn) Kew Garden, Flushing and Bayside (Queens) and Washington Heights and Kingsbridge (Manhattan) men really outnumber women by a fair bit. Of course that leaves a lot of neighborhoods where the balance is more or less even
But once it’s laid out like that it’s clear imbalances in the male/female singles balance in NYC as a whole breaks along socio economic, ethnic, immigrant and sexual orientation lines. So how do women in the Bronx feel about men in Staten Island? How do men in Queens feel about women living in Greenwich Village? Do they like each other? Would they go out of their way to meet each other? Do the judgements New Yorkers make about people from other parts of NYC prevent them from getting together? The issue raised in the attached video is about the personal preferences we have, and which may be quite superficial, prevent us from partnering up?